How to get out of work mode and into a positively charged date with great conversation. — How do I stop dates from feeling like interviews? This question is thrilling for me to tackle because it begs the question — what’s the difference? Interviews start off with a power dynamic. Someone is being hired and someone is doing the hiring. The decision making power is initially in…

Most checklists set you up for disappointment. Change it up and go on the best dates of your life. — Quick Observables vs. Core Values It’s not that checklists are a terrible thing, but they do make dating coaches uneasy. In my world, I’ve noticed checklists contain two different kinds of items — quick observables and core values. Quick observables are easy to digest and even easier to make fast judgments about — what does…

When it comes to finding your partner, it’s not a build-a-bear situation. — Hefty Bag Needed I love it when dating themes present themselves in clusters. I talk to a lot of daters day in and day out, and some weeks I’m weighted down with a particularly troubling theme that seems to be coming out of every conversation. Lately, it’s been incredibly long and nuanced dating…

Such an important conversation and I like being challenged to think about this as a dating coach and matchmaker. I ask folks about their "attraction" all the time and it never ceases to amaze me how uncomfortable people get talking about race/ethnicity/skin color. Thanks for the read and research!

And this may sting — sometimes that’s a Hallmark card. — We’re heading toward Valentine’s Day, and holy Cupid, what a holiday. A lot of folks have feelings about this holiday —which is fitting, being that the holiday is about really big feelings. Some of you are all boo’d up and feeling the pressure to perform, others are ready to pamper…

You can’t get away with the same things when you’re dealing with professionals. — My dear daters, you’ve all done it. Or you’ve had it done to you. Likely both. I know this with certainty. As a singles coach, I hear the stories and tales of woe regularly. I had my own share of it when I was dating as well. …

The apps give you facts. It’s time to look at core values instead. — Among the many things we matchmakers do to understand our clients is ask thought provoking questions. Sure, we have the facts. We know what their preferences for age, ethnicity, height, income level, education, and family goals might be. …

The current dating landscape can be an emotionally taxing beast, but never fear! Date coaches are here to help. Here’s what a lot of people get wrong about date coaching. 1. Date coaching is only for inexperienced people that are bad at dating This is not only false, it’s a little absurd. If you want someone to help you get fit, you may…

It’s time to reverse your programming on which relationships have higher value and love your own journey… and everyone else’s. — We’ve all heard the story of grandparents that met as teenagers, married each other as virgins, had a family, and stuck together until the end, holding hands as they passed away peacefully in their sleep (or some similar version). …